Baby!

A friend of mine had a baby this week and of course all us share his and his wifey's joy in welcoming the arrival of the cutesy baby!! Emails were sent back and forth in quick successions asking a multitude of questions regarding the baby as well as the welfare of the mother and father (the father???).

Anyways, one particular email stood out when one of our friends asked, or more like commanded the husband to buy a gift for the wifey for giving him a baby boy. A special gift and not any cheapo gift to reward the wife for having successfully giving birth to the baby. According to the friend it's a must! As she successfully gave birth to HIS baby!

As I read it, I thought, hmmm..if you give the wife a gift for bearing you a child, then wouldn't that make the wife a baby factory rather than the one u loved who embarked on this baby making adventure with you for a lifetime?

I mean, the baby should be a special gift for both the husband and wife and not to be viewed as a gift from the wife to the husband. No? Both husband and wife should want to have a baby and not just having the baby just because the husband wants it. No?

Don't get me wrong, I have absolutely no problems with giving a gift of appreciation to the one you love who suffered (?) 9 months of labour but the idea of a gift as a form of reward is, to me, flawed.

Unless of course you are the King of an empire and you need to ensure your wealth and power is kept within your family. Then such wives will be taken just to produce babies. Usually such persons or Kings will have no less than 40 wives which means he will have more than 100 children, 1000 grandchildren and gazillion more great grandchildren to fight for the wealth and throne. It's ok if the family tears itself apart as long as the wealth is kept "In-houes". Also, by having 40 wives, the King will also be able keep himself healthy by working hard at making babies. Best exercise in the world is sex and it's supposedly proven. Lucky bugger!

But then again, only when you are born with all the right stars and heavens in perfect karmastic and horoscopic alignment will you ever end up being a King of anything!!

Hence, should we then marry for baby or marry for love? Of course there are people out there who marries for baby but as for me the answer is clear. I have no wealth what more an empire, so I will marry for love and then embark hopefully on my own baby making adventure with my dear wifey for the rest of my time on this Earth.